Middle schoolers may not want to return to school after the new year. Parents though are typically happy to return to the routine. How can parents motivate kids?
You probably remember the first days back in school after a long holiday. The dread of returning to face your sixth period science teacher. Will the year ever end?
Now as a parent your kids sort through the same emotions. The difference between you and your child: they can't see the end. When you are in the middle of a challenge to renew motivation it takes someone or something to ignite the fire again.
Parents can be the catalyst that inspires a renewed interest in middle school life. Focus on the highlights of your child's first semester. Conversations that build on past achievements often serve to motivate future action. Steer clear of what needs to be fixed or changed. Your child is well aware of where they failed to meet expectations. Your continued focus on these deficits only serves to deepen their belief that change is futile.
Look to the future as a time to build on the past. Share stories of your own achievements and their connection to where you are now. The adolescent mind is focused on the here and now. With a little help they can see beyond today. You may be the light that helps them see the end of the tunnel.
